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- there is no excuse for this man. All he had to do was ask for help. Public Aid would of paid for nursing home care. I am an administrator and there would not have been a problem getting her approved. He may have been overwhelmed but letting her die in those conditions is unexcusable regardless of race.
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- This is a tragedy in many ways. This man should not be charged with abuse in my view. This is heaping more misery upon misery for him. It seems he was overwhelmed by a situation that was out of control. I have to ask that if he was not a black man would the charges have been so quickly made? I don't know... He needed help... Why discharge this women to an obvious impossible situation.. how could anyone deal with this alone? Did he have health insurance to pay for help? So many questions... I just find it too easy to 'charge' someone rather than to find out what when wrong and try to get support for those who are in dire situations like this.. to let them know there is help if they ask for it. That picture of him being booked says it all for me.
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- There is something suspicious about this. I know people who weigh that much and they can walk. Heck there was a story in the news not long ago about a 600-pound guy who went to the gym and lost weight. Obviously he could still move. How did she get the other injuries? If she wasn't walking, then they weren't from falling down.
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- It would appear that she was super fat long before the accident. How did she manage then?
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- Why were there not services available for a 400 pound bedridden with a crushed pelvis? At some point, she was institutionalized, and at some point, someone RELEASED THE WOMAN INTO A SITUATION WHERE ANY SANE PERSON COULD SEE THAT SHE COULD NOT POSSIBLY RECEIVE CARE.
Our society turned their backs on this woman and her husband, and then made him the villain of the piece.
NO ONE can life a four hundred pound woman to change her diapers, alone.
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- How much did she weigh *before* the accident? From personal experience I can tell you how hard it is to care for a patient of that size. Even with help (home care, which he possibly couldn't afford) it is difficult to care for, and particularly to clean an immobile patient of that size. It looks to me like there was a lack of follow-through by the hospital, where she undoubtedly was following the accident, to determine what kind of situation she was going home to. Most lay people have no clue about what home care services are available or how to ask for them. Or maybe she used up all her Medicaid days. We don't have the whole story here.
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- I may be confused here, but whatever happened to the wife's willpower?
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- While I doubt I could take care of someone who's bedridden from obescity I also couldn't just let them waste away. How hard is it to pick up a phone, dial 911 and say I'm losing it, I can't deal with her anymore. Also sounds like her car wreck was to blame for alot of it. She may have been big but wasn't bedridden until after the accident.
For better or worse means just that. If you can't take the worst then call for help. 911 is there for alot of reasons. - Reply to this comment
- his sister could have been there to help if she's so interested in supporting him now. he has no excuse for leaving her in filth, but it's also obvious that the job of taking care of a woman with those extenuating circumstances was too much for him to take on.
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- I genuinely feel for this man. We need a better way to get care to people like his wife instead of relying on whatever family member is around. How many people who would condemn him here would take on the job of wiping the butt of a 400 pound person several times a day? Yes, he probably brought her the food that helped her get fat, but she probably manipulated him into doing it through guilt. And he probably took care of her as well as he could until he couldn't.
And I think it is a shame that he cannot see his kids. They've lost their mom, they need their dad.
Caregiving is hard and if it takes a village to end up with the reward of a balanced adult in raising children, then consider what it should take for the no reward of caring for someone who will not change or grow. I'm not saying people don't deserve care, I'm just saying that for every person that requires care, we need to provide enough resources so that caregivers don't get discouraged and worn out and used up. - Reply to this comment
