Comments on: Online Gaming Isn't Just Child's Play

An Addiction To Internet Gaming Tore Apart One Woman's Life And Family

[psykiblue]

I actually dont have any problems with video games, can play them for an hour and put them down and do other things and continue on with life.

Perhaps you should get over your immaturity and childish before posting here. Such responses are just that, childish, immature and not worth taking seriously. When you stop being so shortsighted let us know.

[airaddiction]

Sorry, I don't know anybody stupid enough to ruin their life over video games.

Just face the facts, you are ree-tah-ded.

[psykiblue]

MichelleM99 You have nothing to apologize for. Actually your responses have been one of the few that havent criticized any kind of addiction. So I thank you for that its refreshing to see that someone can at least look at something with perspective and not get defensive.

As for the rest it is my hope that none of you ever have to go anything this horrible in relation to gaming. Call stupidity if you want to, I hope no one close to you has any issues with gaming b/c with an attitude such as that they will never seek help b/c you'll continue to make them feel stupid when they try to reach out.

gamerwidow.com is an awesome site not just for widows or exgamers but for gamers as well. It is a community of support and hope. Not only that I have made good friend among members and when you are going through something, knowing there are others who you can reach out that will give comfort and support at difficult times helps to lighten the burden of feeling so alone.

[airaddiction]

It's not actually an addiction that causes people to ruin their lives over video games. It is a disease though, a very common disease that threatens to destroy the world...

I call this disease...stupidity. Yes, stupidity is what causes people(hereby known as stupid people) to ruin their lives over video games and such. It does this by completely cutting off their ability to think or use common sense. The effects are devastating. People are getting divorced, losing their homes, blaming video games for all the bad things, even CBS is turning into FOX News...

I have reason to believe Daniel Sieberg is infected with the stupid virus. The bug is spreading fast people!

But there is hope, I have devised a plan to rid our planet of the diabolical virus known as stupid. I suggest we send all of our stupid people to...Florida.

You see, it is my belief that the abundance of alligators in Florida will cause the stupid people to eventually run into them. Now being stupid people, they don't have the common sense required to walk away from the alligators, and may even try to pet them. Thus the stupid people are eaten by alligators and the stupid virus dies with them.

[itwasntme000]

Hi kay you should start an account on wow and make a char on the dalvenger. we could use another good player. ooooooooo

j/k sorry

How much time do you spend on the laptop now on your chat boards now??? Or since it seems like time better spent to you then a video game it is ok???
just a thought.
talk to u tomorrow if this post is still active. Woot almost time to leave work now..

[michellem99-2009]

I have to say I have learnt alot here.I never ever meant to say anything to hurt you. I have my cross to bear. It takes a strong person to share her/his pains and rise above it and want to help others. I have seen what drink does to others and it is not pretty.I told my stepdad you got a driving problem in the late 70s and he could not handle my answer. It true. Kay dear I wish you and your kids well. I watched you talked on CBS web. I tell computer I have to take a break. As a vistually impaired person in my 50s and computer has open world I would never know ofher wise. I do love to play solitaire on computer besides the net.Take care. I do feel us ladies do suffer low or worthless junk taught as girls. It is sad BUT true. I am 52.

[psykiblue]

Perhaps to all the non believers of gaming addiction, perhaps you should visit gamerwidow.com read stories of spouses/partners addicted or exgamer's accounts of how gaming almost ruined their lives or gamers who acknowledge they have a problem and want help.

Would you criticize them openly? Would you mock them for their troubles? Stop being so shortsighted. The world gaming or otherwise does not revolve around you. Sure you may not have problems and can balance everything perfectly fine. Its the same thing that everyone who takes an alcoholic drink isnt an alcoholic but some do have issues with it.

Stop taking this defensively and try putting yourself outside the situation and look at it objectively. If you can do that, then perhaps you'll see that some people do indeed need help while others can game responsibility and its not a problem for their families.

[melodyl-2009]

Kay, I think the issue with this was that the person doesn't understand the clinical term for enablers. My dad was/is an alcoholic. My mom was his enabler by letting him hide it in their closet (given, this was partially out of fear, but still).

You enabled your husband to play the "gross" amount of hours. You enabled him further by playing with him. He then enabled you to continue playing by allowing you not to work.

I think the part that a lot of the gamers are missing is that while there is no chemical being introduced in your body to make you addicted, there is still a heightened sensory addiction to overcome. It's much like a sexual addiction. You do it because it feels good. The more you feel good, the more you want to continue it. It's only when you let it go out of control that it starts affecting your every day life.

I agree though, there is usually something that pushes you to start the addiction in the first place. For Kay, she gave up trying to pull her husband away. She probably needed to feel in control again. He has clearly stated that he was hiding from his problems.

I have a feeling now that they've gotten/are getting a divorce, much of their addictions will subside. Kay is in control of her life, so she doesn't need the crutch to feel like she's in control. The Ex no longer has to worry about his relationship crumbling so he won't need to hide from it. Sometimes the simplest way is exactly what needs to happen.

[sissy-lala]

"But its ok to watch tv/movies for 40 hours a week?
To me sports nuts are some of the worst for this. they can easily spend that much time or more.
Posted by itwasntme000 at 11:00 AM : May 03, 2007"

Did I say that? No, I didn't.

So what's your point?

[psykiblue]

Sometimes its very hard to think of what one might go through if you havent gone through the same things. Sure you might view addiction to gaming as completely out to lunch but that does not mean it does not exist.

I'm not saying pills are the answer either, at least not for me as I am extremely antidrug, I hate taking them. However for some people it is how they get their life back on track and how they fix the things that are going wrong. You cant judge them for that, its the help that they need.

A lot of people can game and not be bothered by it and they can do it responsibility. Just because I know that I can game for an hour and then not play doesnt mean that everyone is like that because they're not. For some gaming borders on obsession with getting the best gear, or the best guild. Sure that may not be your experience but dont discredit that it happens just because you cant see it happening because its not personally related to you.