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- Thank you, Nancy. My husband and I always look forward to your thoughts on the "Sunday Show". But, today, my first Mother's Day without my Mother, was hard. Your comments about your Mother and yourself as a "great aunt" struck home. I am also a "great aunt and a great great-aunt", with no children of my own except for my loving dog. My husband gave me cards this morning - one from him and one from my doggie. He is a wonderful and thoughtful man and my dog is, of course, the most adorable in the world :-)
Thank you so much for another poignant and incisive commentary. My husband was right there consoling me as he knew the effect your words would have on me. Did I mention that he is wonderful??
Thank you for helping me face the day and reiminding all of us that it doesn't get easier, we just have to carry on in the manner that will make our Mom's proud.
BIG HUGS to you, Nancy. - Reply to this comment
- I was very moved by this piece. I lost my mom 17 years ago and it still is very painful. Last year my daughter lost her mom as well and I know the pain she is feeling today. You are correct. You only get through it and it remains with you for the rest of your life.
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- Hi Nancy, Thank you for putting into words what I have felt for the last 12 years. I too am childless and motherless...you sure summed it all up and made me feel a little less alone today. Many many thanks for your well-spoken thoughts. All The Best and sending hugs....
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- Thank you for so eloquently expressing how I have felt for 9 years since losing my mother. No children no mother. I'll be glad when today is over.
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- Thank you so much for this story. I too have lost my mother and when she died she donated her body to a medical school. I didn't know she had died until the funeral director called me, the hospital didn't call nor my mothers doctor they left it up to my mother's pastor. He was cleaning out my mother's home of everything and had taken my mothers car when the funeral home found out that my mother had died. (I called my mom almost every Sunday in the early evening and had called numerous times that day but no answer so I thought she was visiting with her friend.) When I received this call about 5 p.m. I was devestated. The police would do nothing to help me stop the pastor..my mother had signed a paper donating everything to the small off brand church 1 month before she died. I am glad that Nancy has good memories and for all you people reading these comments, remember to keep your mother close, you never know when some greedy, immoral people will try and take advantage of your elderly mother or father. I too hate mothers day and look on it as a day just made for selling junk and flowers by the stores..
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- Dear Nancy,
Thank you for another one of your great comment pieces on "Sunday Morning." I have really enjoyed your work for years!
Put me in the "Mother killed by drunk driver 25 years ago (in her sixties,) lucky aunt of several nieces, just lost her beloved "card-sending" dog to cancer 6 months ago" section of your fans.
Everyone has their pain. I have a bad day or three before Mother's Day and usually recover the next day.
I can't imagine how women who have lost a child cope on Mother's day. That is much worse. My heart goes out to them.
I'm lucky to have had a mother who worked hard to raise us and who cared about her children very much. My deep sadness is that she was taken out of this world---while riding as a passenger on her vacation---by a guy who'd had a few beers--just as she was learning to enjoy life after recently overcoming cancer and beginning to overcome her depression after my father's death years before.
My depression before Mother's Day comes from the fact that that drunk driver's careless running of a red light resulted in my mom being crushed and burnt, then being awake and aware in a distant hospital for a day or two before she died. I've tried, but I just can't seem to get past that cruel and horrible death.
I apologize if this upsets anyone, but I hope that if a person who drinks and drives reads this, they might think twice before they turn that ignition key again and blow up another family's lives.
I really appreciate your remembering those of us who are in the same boat as you.
I do not resent Mother's Day at all. Good mothers deserve every bit of celebrating their families can give them.
But it's nice that someone thought about those of us who can no longer bring flowers and send cards to their moms.
Thank you very much, Nancy. Sending you all good wishes.
P.S. Your mother was an impressive artist! What a great gift you gave her in that exhibition! - Reply to this comment
- Dear Nancy, I have never commented on line on anything before but your segment this morning really touched my heart. I don't recall anyone ever addressing this before and your comments and those above have made me feel less alone. I lost my mother 11 years ago and I, too, don't have any children. Thank you for so eloquently expressing thoughts that I have had and have never expressed, even to close friends.
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- I am sure your mom and mine and all the others who left too soon are keeping each other company. Mine died 36 years ago at the age of 55. I was 25. It was the Friday before Mother's Day. Mother's Day has been difficult for me most of my life. Passing the racks of Mother's Day cards is the hardest part. I am sure my life would have been very different if she had lived longer.
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- I too, lost my Mom...29 years ago...and I can identify with the feelings Ms. Giles experiences every year on this day.
There was always that voice and that place I could turn to when it seemed like no one or nothing understood or even cared about me at all. She could make me feel that reassuring calm that helped me to believe that everything would be alright no matter what the problem, and there was at least one place and one person in this world I could count on that would always be there for me and welcome me home....and that's irreplaceable.
Happy Mother's Day Mom. Miss you,
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- I thank you, so very much, Nancy. My Mom died when I was only 11 years old, from injuries sustained in an automobile accident. To make matters worse, I had a mentally unstable father that couldn't care for me and my younger brother... so I really felt the loss more than most people could ever imagine. During your heartfelt segment this morning, I couldn't help but vocally agree with many of the sentiments you expressed. I know that NO ONE in my persoanl life knows how I feel. No one I know understands how this loss effected me, which is why I was personally so touched by your commentary. You actually DO UNDERSTAND the loss and how it has effected you, and that it's something you never just "get over". I THANK YOU for sharing your story. You don't know how much you touched so many of us Motherless Daugthers this morning. I don't have children, either, but like you, I have mothered other children and pets and it helps....... God Bless, my friend!!
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