Comments on: "Angry" S.C. 1st Lady: I May Forgive Him

Jenny Sanford Says It's Up to Her Unfaithful Husband to Save Their 20-year Marriage

[formrusmcsgt]

If Evangelicals "wised up" as you recommend, they wouldn't be Evangelicals any more.

[pensacola8-2009]

It is incredible that Jenny Sanford is considering forgiving and remaining faithful to her marriage. Ultimately, the person with the most baggage to carry is the Governor, himself. The people of South Carolina will have to decide to do with their elected hypocrite governor.

The people of South Carolina deserve to have a better governor who serves the needs of their state without scandalous distractions.

Evangelicals need to wise up and realize their political endorsement over superficial criteria can easily blow up in their faces.

[formrusmcsgt]

Agreed. Once they cheat they show their colors. Only a fool and/or one with no dignity whatsoever would ever do so.

She appears to be both.

[pjk12354]

Kind of sounds like the Clintons.

[pjk12354]

Jenny,

Take it from a divorced guy who has been through this crap.........you will never be able to fully trust him again.......

[formrusmcsgt]

Agreed. Once they cheat they show their colors. Only a fool and/or one with no dignity whatsoever would ever do so.

She appears to be both.

[formrusmcsgt]

Too bad the headline can't speak the truth as in "Common S.C 1st Lady.....".

Any woman who takes a man back after infidelity is about as common as they come.

Same for a man taking back a wife who's cheated.

[midwestkris]

While either forgiveness or reconciliation is hard, and may not happen, I have a lot of respect for those who at least try. "For better or for worse" is not a trivial promise, and while it may not always be possible to live up to that promise, I have a great deal of respect for those who make the effort. Marriage is never easy, and it takes hard work. Mr. Sanford may not be willing to try, and Ms. Sanford may find she is unable to stay in the relationship even if she is able to forgive.

[formrusmcsgt]

She won't because she has no more dignity than he.

[formrusmcsgt]

Sanford wanted his cake and eat it too and was too much the coward to leave one relationship before starting another.

Jenny obviously doesn't mind having a publically-proven coward as a husband.

Must be the perks..... and she has no more dignity than he.

[pvperson3]

Sanford is a slime, but if his wife wants to keep him, well that's her misstate and business. But, his refusal to accept the money was self publicizing and grandstanding to the GOP base, plain and simple, then his disappearance to visit his mistress was the icing on the cake. THIS MORON NEEDS TO GO!

[creeper00]

I sure as h*ll wouldn't forgive him. Bad enough he's a philandering SOB. Worse to have him blathering all over about what a "love affair" it was. I guess you'll put up with a lot to be a First Lady.

[cs4466]

She just doesn't want to lose her free ride. LOL! She deserves him. And he deserves her. Talk about your nasty disfunctional neocon relationship! Doesn't look like "love" was ever a factor here.

[jawswife]

You can forgive, but never forget !!!!!! He commented that he is trying to fall back in love with his wife... If I were her I'd tell him to move on. No woman needs that kind of crap. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Just ask Elizabeth Edwards... Forgive him, tell him to catch the first plane back to Argentina, pick up the piece's and move on. This makes you the bigger person, and him the piece of crap he truely is.............

[formrusmcsgt]

She won't because she has no more dignity than he.

[45ford]

I don't necessarily agree with your definition of forgiveness because I sense there's some hatred and anger present in what you're conveying.

For me it's knowing, accepting and remembering that forgiveness is one of life?s most profound and precious gifts -- not only to self but also to humanity and not necessarily granted freely unto others.

[iam4honesty]

Does anyone else think she looks like Ann Coulter with dark hair? That's enough to make any man run screaming into the jungles of South America and into the arms of a squaw.

[stn_sage]

These two are PERFECT for one another! Look at their statements, look at how they behave! They're BOTH a couple of self-centered, narcissistic idiots!

She talks about forgiveness, and how it's up to HIM, then states it will TAKE A LONG TIME to right the relationship! Which begs the question: does
she really want to save it or not?! Or, does she just want to punish him emotionally and psychologically for a next year or two?!

Look! Either she's a Christian and believes in forgiveness and all the scripture she spouts---OR, she doesn't! It's up to HER! She can forgive
him anytime she wants to! And, if she really wants her marriage to survive, the sooner she does, the more likely it will!

After which---if he screws up again---then it's time to toss him out!

[45ford]

i read where she's a former wall street exec as well as the brains behind Mark's fiscal management of the state. the article eluded to Jenny being a micro-managing control freak not only with their boys but also with Mark, between their separate & mutual friends as well as business associates, and it's been so oppressive that Jenny has badly strained or broken numerous relations over the years. it seems that her ways have broken Mark's spirit to the point where mentally he's reduced to nearly nothing. it may well be what caused him to fall out of love with her and led him to stray. in cases involving a domineering adult, it isn't uncommon where they are mentally and physically unavailable to their spouse. since the story broke, Mark has looked and sounded like he's whipped to the point of exhaustion and it doesn't all seem to be stemming from the fallout of his disappearance and affair. Jenny seems to project the feeling that she needs and wants Mark more than Mark needs or wants her. equally, she may be tainting the boys against their dad. a lot of what i've read and seen about the Sanford's reminds me of my parents split and eventual divorce. Mark and Jenny's relationship seems unrepairable.

[ABM_21]

Now, as much as I love to see the G(ang) O(f) P(irates) in this much disarray, my heart does go out to Mrs. Sanford. Out of all of the people the hopefully soon to be erstwhile governor betrayed the most, it was her. She gave this man four children and some of the best years of her life. To add to her humiliation, this idiot can't shut up. If he was to keep quiet for a minute, maybe the brouhaha surrounding his fiasco would die. Instead, he keeps tripping over himself to publicly disclose something that should have remained private. Then, he disclosing bits and pieces of his affair. This is akin to Bush's releasing some of his military records when they were in question. If he was going to 'come clean' about this sordid affair, he should have done so in the beginning. Instead, he has made misstep after misstep, contradicting himself at times and now, there is a question as to whether or not he went to see in Latina lover on South Carolina taxpayer's dime. Hasn't he put his family through enough already? You abandoned your post as governor, left state business unattended for a few days (when no one knew where he was), publicly humiliated your wife and yourself and now, you can't shut up about it. You've apologized for your sin. Enough already! Mrs. Sanford deserves better...

[jayelle5]

Couldn't agree more. At this point Jenny just needs to stop talking publicly and deal with her husband in private. I really couldn't care less at this point whether or not she forgives him. I sick of both of them.

[lloydbest1]

""Angry" S.C. 1st Lady: I May Forgive Him"

To Mrs Sanford:
I think you should.
Forgiveness does not mean acceptance. Forgiveness is for YOUR benefit and not his. It means letting the sinner know he can no longer hurt you, that whatever he does now or in the furure is irrelevant.
Forgiveness is letting go. Completely. That is why it is often so difficult to do. To use Jesus as an example, his call to God to "forgive them for they know not what they do" was not a request to excuse His tormentors' behavior but an entreaty to the Father to let them go. Some people can not be salvaged. It's way easier to try to give the (bad word) one in the eye, but my opinion, for what it is worth, is for you to turn your back on that part of your life and move on. THAT is forgiveness.

[45ford]

I don't necessarily agree with your definition of forgiveness because I sense there's some hatred and anger present in what you're conveying.

For me it's knowing, accepting and remembering that forgiveness is one of life?s most profound and precious gifts -- not only to self but also to humanity and not necessarily granted freely unto others.

[toldyouso29]

but my opinion, for what it is worth, is for you to turn your back on that part of your life and move on. THAT is forgiveness."

That is not forgiveness that is resolve. Forgiveness is acknowledging your own pain and sense of betrayal and letting that go, removing the blame from the other person. YOu don't have to go back or accept a situation to prove forgiveness, and you don't have to forget it--though it is almost impossible to forgive if you keep bringing it up or can let it hurt like the infraction was just yesterday. I say move on--forgive him, accept he has other needs at this point and let him go. He is in the midst of a crush and perhaps a pu#@y whipping--but it will wear off when it does, he may come back--in the meantime, be good to yourself and your boys--IF you take him back, just like illegal immigration, your amnesty will almost GUARANTEE that he will do it again since he knows you will put up with it.

[hamiltongrad]

I FORGIVE everyone , as I know that thrusting blame time after time deep into the darkness of our soul, is just well barbaric.

[ssachung]

I am saddened that people that claimed to uphold marriage a sacred union is so willing to side track from it so easily. I feel like our argument that marriage will be ruined by unions of people other than the opposite sex is not very weak. It is already ruined by people like Ensign and Sanford. Not to mention by Mr. Bill Clinton that have the nerve to bar marriage from people of the same sex after he violated it. This just shows that we should not be judging but needs to look at our own actions instead. Or else, we are going to be laughed at and will be the biggest hypocrite.