Comments on: Couple Uses MySpace In Hunt For Baby

Sherry and Karl Dittmar Hope To Find Birthmother Through Popular Internet Site

[msevangeline]

I do not see anything wrong with posting an add on MySpace for adoption. My husband and I have. Alot of times girls talk to thier friends (web friends) before they tell anyone else. I have talked with 2 girls that thought thier were pregnate one ended up not being pregnate however she was able to talk about what was going on in her life. Things that she was not wanting to tell her parents but yet need advice on.
I pray for the michigane couple to be blessed with a child however it comes to them.

[yoopermom]

Phoenix

First off, I am sorry for the pain your family has been through. I hope at some time, your Grandmother found peace. Being forced to be reminded of the pain that she endured was not fair to her.

Second, I too am so glad that things worked out as they did. My sister is a wonderful mother and I have a beautiful niece. Originally it was my sisters idea to give her baby up for adoption because she felt she was too young to properly care for her child. Luckily for her she had the family support in whatever decision she made.

My son was severely abused and neglected by his biological parents. He was originally diagnosed with severe mental retardation and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. He is not only an honor roll student, but he is taking some advanced classes and he exceeds in basketball and football. He has overcome many obstacles and has come through them like a champ. He is now thirteen, and I am so proud of the young man he is turning into. (OK, now I am bragging! I%u2019ll admit it.)

My point is, when Good, or whoever you believe in, closes one door, there is usually a reason for that.

[jennmarie620]

For the millionth time, this story has NOTHING to do with the parents being Christian. They could be members of a Satanic cult for all I care - as long as they are law abiding citizens who are good parents, it doesn't MATTER what their religious feelings are. What matters is what this one situation will do to future pregnant teenagers or young women.

What if a fourteen year old finds out she's pregnant and she feels she can't go to her parents? Alright, she just puts up a profile on Myspace saying she wants to give her baby up for adoption - she finds a couple who want to adopt, and she hides the pregnancy from her parents, and then something goes wrong.

Or what if a man and woman join in a scheme together to start "adopting" babies off of scared young single women and then harming the mother and/or baby? Or how bout one of those mentally ill women who want a child so they go to Myspace and make a profile saying they're looking to adopt and they meet with the birth mother - only to kill her and steal the baby?

What's at issue here is safety for the birth mother, the baby, and the legitimate parents who want to adopt.

What I am having a hard time with is, if these parents have adopted before why do this publicity stunt? They know how to go about adopting a baby.

[puzzler125]

There's a vast difference between writing English as a second language and being a bad speller or a poor grammarian. Why do people continue to trash those writers who choose to express opinions and obviously are not the greatest of typists or have not had as much writing experience in English?

[phoenix1218]

"Really? I've never heard "In God We Trust" during any recitation of the pledge. And, of course, "In God We Trust" was first placed on US coinage in 1864. There's a history lesson for you. What I see as hypocritical is the people who will blast the pro-life stance by saying that there are too many babies up for adoption, but when a Christian wants to adopt you have nothing positive to say. Posted by vbnvbn"

It doesn't say In 'GOD We Trust' but it DOES say 'One Nation Under GOD'. Other than that...I have to agree with you, they are pro-life btu when a christian wants to adopt they say negative things. SO true, but sad.

[phoenix1218]

"I know what I said. I am a poor white blind lady.I try to say it as best as I can.I may not get every word spelt right.For the persons I know they are not buying a baby.I feel that the Mum-to-be should realise the truth.If the ladies posting here have never had to think about issues of . Posted by MichelleM99"

If you are blind how can you read the postings? Do you honestly think that she doesn't realize her options? You say you are an old blind lady. I honestly think that you are one of those sad young girls that was forced to give up her own baby by her parents. You sound like a bitter woman and if this really did happen to you I feel sorry for you.

[phoenix1218]

"I find n out.. holior.. wonan/man...Form...she fail to reason,understand at all she begging for, A member of someone else's family and hand that member over.So sorry it don't work that way. The girl/woman carry that girl child,birth her,hand her over,never see the child,name her, the like. If the femele does hand her child over thinking it in the best interest of the child. That is a pack of lies. The woman knows she had that girl baby ,wonders about her,the same of her child they conned out of her. Posted by MichelleM99"

First, learn english. They're not begging. They have kids but there's nothing wrong to want more. She isn't being forced to give up her baby but is doing it likely because she knows she can't handle or afford to care for a child the way a child needs to be. Who cares if these people are religious. She can do a background check if she wants to, hire a lawyer at the adoptive parents expense to feel out her legal options. She could also go for an open adoption. Yes, and though she may hand over her child she still knows that child, she did carry it and she will never forget it. No mom who has given up or lost a child through misscarriage ever forgets the child, EVER. My guess is that you had at one point been forced to give up a child. I know back in the 50's, 60's if a young girl was pregnant she went to a home and her parents forced her to give up the baby for adoption. I think you might be one of those girls. You sound so bitter and for that I feel sorry for you.

[michellem99-2009]

I know what I said. I am a poor white blind lady.I try to say it as best as I can.I may not get every word spelt right.For the persons I know they are not buying a baby.I feel that the Mum-to-be should realise the truth.If the ladies posting here have never had to think about issues of .
1. She is so scared after she is told You are with child.She is young.Poor.Can't talk to her parents for fear God only knows WHAT.Has no skills for her and or ababy Boyfriend baby's dad walks.No means of support for her and baby.She is sick from not able to feep food in her,
2.She talks to a person who know her case.home life etc. It is not a 1 time talk.
3. The Mum-to-be has 3 choices have keep,give up,or abort. NOW each is talked about.They as a team talk . Mum-to-be does her share and ponders the issues she face.IF she is in poor health and her body can't support carrying a baby then abortion, that pain she carries in her heart long along time.
4. Some girls are in foster homes. Those homes have their share of abues be it verbal,sexual and or phyhical.I know that too well.
I don't attend church due Jesus don't live there but in the human heart,'toldyouso21 thanks.

[phoenix1218]

"We adopted our son shortly after a relative decided to keep her newborn instead of having us adopt her. If we would have adopted the newborn, we would not have been able to adopt our son. We were devastated at first, but then realized that Gods plan was for us to have our son instead."
Posted by yoopermom"

As much as it pained you and your husband i am glad your relative decided to not let you adopt her child. 1) you now have a son you love and 2) my grandmother was raped and got pregnant. HER mom guilted her into letting my Grandmothers brother (and his wife) adopt her baby as they were having difficulty (they did go on to have biological children). My Grandmothers son was raised as her nephew and I cannot tell you how this affected her, and not in an alltogether good way. Her son was raised in a VERY loving home but my Grandmother was very hurt. She would have given up her son as he was the result of a rape but now that fact faced her at every single family function and every time she went to a family members home where there were pictures. My mother was not aware of the fact her cousin was actually her half brother until she was in her 20's. Of course my Grampa knew but respected my Grandmothers decision to not say anything and it wasn't until after she passed that my Mom, Aunt and my 2 Uncles found out. Please believe that I am sorry for the pain you suffered but it really is better the way it happened. And now you have a son you otherwise would not have had.

[cantshutup]

no seandgreen, I purposely meant a n u s!!!!!


vbnvbn...my mistake, I actually meant UNDER GOD...looks like i jumped the gun on that one

[wiccantexan]

...IN GOD WE TRUST was only added to the pledge and our currency during the 50's when everyone was freaking out about communism. Learn some history...
Posted by cantshutup
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I believe the history you were thinking of is "under God," which was added to the Pledge of Allegiance on Flag Day, June 14, 1954.

[last121868]

toldyouso21: Great post!

[jennmarie620]

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.
Posted by WiccanTexan at 01:40 PM : Apr 26, 2007



... has anyone else thought of what kind of can of worms this opens up for people who AREN'T honest? If a legitimate couple can find a baby on Myspace, imagine was an illegitimate person could find.

[wiccantexan]

Let's face it...probably more than half the MY SPACE members are teenagers. And half of them female. Who knows, this might be a great thing for them and for some young girl that got herself into some trouble and is looking for a great Christian family to raise her child.
Posted by rob-kar05 at 12:45 PM : Apr 26, 2007
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What scares me about this is the lack of background check. Maybe this couple is legit; the reporter would have made sure. But what if they weren't? What if there are people posing as "Christian couples" (with the idea being that they are "safe") who are looking for infants to then traffic in black-market adoptions?

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.

[jennmarie620]

Somehow, discussion on this story turned into "are these people fit to adopt" and "so what if they're Christian." Here's what discussion should be about:

Is it proper, right, and legal to go online on a site like Myspace and put up a profile announcing you're looking to adopt someone's child?

Story: I'm a 25 year old single mother of a 7 year old girl - yes, I was a senior in high school when I found out I was pregnant and she was born shortly after graduation. I could have given her up for adoption, but chose to be a mother - and I know many girls who did not make the choice I made. I applaud them and the people who adopted their children.

But they contact attorneys, adoption agencies, churches, and handled everything through the courts and legally. They didn't go trolling the internet for a young, unwed teenager who happened to get pregnant.

Their oldest children were adopted - so they know how it works. Honestly, I think they did this knowing it would get media attention and be on the news. It's attention - maybe they wanted it so they could find a little girl faster or for some other, darker reason - I don't know nor do I pretend to know.

[wiccantexan]

Buddhism did not come from the Mongols.
Posted by passerby2 at 12:07 PM : Apr 26, 2007
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My error in translation, sorry. Tibetan Buddhism and the native Mongolian faith were remarkably similar, and with the spread of Tibetan Buddhism into Mongolia, there were mergings of common points and changes as well. Just take a look at a lot of the Tibetan Buddhism tools; they are weapons.

[yoopermom]

"I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

So, if they take in another child -- wouldn't that defy their perception of God's will? It's an interesting dilemma/perspective.
Posted by seandgreen

Just maybe the reason God closed this door was knowing that there was a child waiting for them elsewhere. God works in mysterious ways. We may not always understand them, but we look to accept them.

We adopted our son shortly after a relative decided to keep her newborn instead of having us adopt her. If we would have adopted the newborn, we would not have been able to adopt our son. We were devastated at first, but then realized that Gods plan was for us to have our son instead. He has brought so much to our lives and the little girl is thriving with her mother.

[sallmaras]

First, any young mother could seek the advice of an attorney first, at the potential adoptive parents expense. Second, religion has absolutely nothing to do with this, other than the fact that they say that they are Christians. If they would have said that they were devil worshipers, religion still has nothing to do with this story. It is solely their desire to adopt a baby girl. Nothing more, nothing less. I was a very young mother that chose not to abort or adopt out my son. That does not mean though that all young mothers should do the same. I have also arranged for other young mothers to release their babies for adoption as it was what would have been, in the long run, best for the child. The mother should be thoroughly examined, as should the potential adoptive parents. It is a two way street. How many stories have we read, heard or known of "first hand" of a woman adopting out her child only to have made the same committment to multiple candidates. It is a shame but it happens all the time. So, retain counsel, dot the i's and t's and wish the baby girl, whomever she may be, the very best life.

[toldyouso21]

I am a strong Christian and.."

Stop right there miss, I've read ENUF, I'd disqualify you from consideration immediately right there- christian history is one of subversion, violence, death, bloodshed and bigotry- I wouldn't want any kid of mine growing up in a so called "christian" home.
Posted by newster1 at 09:54 AM : Apr 26, 2007


Well, I am a Christian who unfortunately must agree that you may have a point. Being a Christian is not something you announce, it is how one decides to approach and live their life. Most so called Christians may attend Churches but they are NOT Christians. They rarely know the bible and are at the mercy of Charlatans and fake leaders. Show me a person who strenuously and constantly proclaims their Christianity and 9 times out of 10 you pull back the curtain to reveal a pedophile, liar, miscreant, theif, bigot, and all around hateful person. Christians do not believe or condone torture, killing, wars, lies, vengeance, running after money, going after political power or any other kind of evil--because to be a Christian is to be "Christ like and Christ did not condone or run after any of that stuff.

[toldyouso21]

I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

Then heed God's message. Evidently, God feels this couple has enough on their plate--it is kind of sad and sick to shop for kids like one goes looking for used cars or old stereo equipment. God must have felt they had enough to handle--so just raise your healthy 3 and leave the pregnant moms alone.