Comments on: Don't Marry Career Women? Not So Fast!

Forbes Opinion Piece Roils Cyberspace

[cguy6]

I user to work with Mike Noer. He's ***, and very, very bitter.

Perhaps he should write an article entitled "guys: don't marry, date, or sleep with women."

[kaffers-2009]

The author stated that wives' employment does correlate positively to divorce rates, when the marriage is of "low marital quality." Well, duh - they aren't dependent on their husbands' paychecks and they can afford to get out of a bad marriage, where women without their own income have a much harder time doing that. Ooh, and they have more opportunity to meet men at work - so that's bad, but it's OK that men have always had that opportunity?

[random_radar]

MarkS7177,

How many career women and baby factories have you been married to? The Forbes article was about marrying a career woman, not dating one. From your comment, I would hazard to guess that you have never been married. I would prefer to date intelligent, educated, ambitious, witty, charming career women. The question is whether that woman will be happy married to you.

Let's put a different spin on the discussion. It's not a matter of whether a man would be satisfied with a career woman. The real question is whether a career woman (a euphemism for intelligent, ambitious, successful) will be disappointed with the average loser that manhood has to offer in our society. The underlying message coming from Forbes is a warning that most men don't measure up and they are headed for trouble if they actually marry that tantalizing dream of a woman whose talents and virtues are manifested by outward career success.

Of course, some men can make the grade and the rebuttals by their wives are wonderful. The truth is that there are a lot more women with their acts together than there are comparable men to marry. It is proverbial to hear successful women lament "Where are all the good men?" The answer is that a large proportion of them never grew up and they don't exist in a par ratio to the women hoping to find them and live happily every after.

Everyone can save themselves a lot of heartache if they avoid being "unequally yoked together."