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George Baghdadi /

CNET/ October 25, 2010, 8:05 AM

Syrian Boy, 5, Engaged to Girlfriend, 3

Khalid and Hala sit next to each other at their engagement ceremony in Homs, Syria.

Two Syrian children may be the youngest couple ever to get engaged.

Khalid, 5, popped the question to Hala, who's just 3, "of his own free will," following a whirlwind holiday romance.

The families of both children are not only taking the betrothal seriously, they insist the school children are in love and are already planning a wedding for 10 years down the road -- when Khalid will be 15 and Hala 12.

The parents arranged the engagement ceremony in their home town of Homs, about 100 miles north of Damascus. They invited family friends and even bought rings which the prepubescent couple exchanged in adult fashion.

Their story has become the talk of the country.

Khalid's father, Juma, said his son fell in love with Hala just days after meeting her during a family trip to the port city of Latakia.

"He was so love-sick after parting from his young girlfriend that he refused to go back to his nursery unless little Hala came too," said Juma, who added that Khalid was his only child from a marriage which lasted more than 25 years.

"I vowed to have my child engaged at the age of five if he was a boy and to marry him to a women of his choice at the age of 15," he said. He has also agreed to bear the education expenses of both children until they graduate.

Khalid places a ring on Hala's finger at their engagement ceremony.

Juma says that as absence made his son's heart grow fonder in the separation following the vacation, his wife contacted Hala's family and was surprised to learn the little girl was, "developing similar symptoms of loneliness and the family would be happy to see them engaged."

Child marriage continues across the globe as many cultures remain bound by tradition, but there are very few cases when it comes to big cities in this Middle Eastern country. Syria is not among the United Nations list of 30 countries with the highest incidents of child marriage.

Perhaps the unusual nature of the betrothals has increased the disapproval and displeasure voiced in Syria's newspapers and online discussion forums.

"Instead of doing what most parents would do -- you know, laugh it off and chalk it up to childhood romance -- they decided to call Hala's mother and buy the pair rings! How...cute?" ridiculed a woman identifying herself as Bushra on the A'akes al-Seir (Against the Current) blog.

"How can these idiotic and clearly blind parents not see that they are merely encouraging the destruction of their children's childhood? It's beyond me why they're not just shrugging it off with a 'don't be silly' attitude," wrote another concerned woman in Damaspost. "These imbeciles have taken this too far already, and it should be stopped before something stupid happens."

However, according to Syria's English-language Forward Magazine, Syrian marriages are traditionally arranged at an early age for both males and females. When a boy reaches puberty, his female relatives begin searching for a suitable wife, who generally will be a few years younger than him.

If prospects are limited, a matchmaker is hired and together they go knocking on the doors of nearby homes and asking: "Do you have girls for marriage"?

Some tribal elders also see nothing wrong in committing young girls to marriage. They believe early marriage protects their daughters from premarital relationships, arguing that Islamic law in fact permits such matrimonies.

Several international human rights agreements protect children from underage marriage, including the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948), the Convention of Eradication of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (1979), the Convention on the Rights of the Child (1989), and the African Charter on the Rights and Welfare of the Child (1990).

The UN recommends that countries adopt a minimum age for marriage of 18 for both sexes, saying child marriage reinforces low education, high fertility, and poverty.

"We know that Khalid or Hala might change their mind in the future, but what we do know at this stage is that they are very happy and talk to each other every day," Juma claims. "We laugh when Hala calls and says, 'can I speak with my ceianfe, please?'" he says, making a lighthearted quip about the 3-year-old girl's mispronunciation.

This story was filed by CBS News' George Baghdadi in Damascus.
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PencilSharpener says:
Hey I'm 4 1/2 years old and I'm married. Civilization as we know it will never be the same. Our society will be viewed as citizens who exchange nuptials at such an early developmental state. I'm happily married and enjoy each and every day spent with my husband. We're going on our one year anniversary next month and he has promised to take me to Syria to meet this couple with similar values. As soon as he bought me from my father for the price of a goat, I knew he was the one. Personally, I believe there is nothing wrong with this. It's what's best.
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thenicks3 says:
Erasmus - my comment was pure sarcasm. It goes without saying that the parents of these children should be charged with some form of child abuse.
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thenicks3 says:
Can we all agree that any bride and groom must be able to write the words engaged, married, and probably divorced in cursive before they walk down the aisle?
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erasmus111 replies:
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No, that isn't good enough. I think they would be able to do that long before they actually understood what marriage entailed.
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dolmance-2009 says:
They'll probably do very well when they get married. And Americans, through questionnaires, have repeatedly shown themselves to be among the most unsatisfied, unhappy people on the planet. For instance, in Mexico, with all it's problems, people have been shown to be far happier in general than people in the US. And besides, they sure are cute.
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golfballtx replies:
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right...they're much happier...that's why hundreds of them are risking their lives every day to "escape" to the hell that is the US....idiot!
Segiris replies:
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Are you serious? You can't quanitify or measure "happiness", people are creatures of phases, something that makes you happy today, will not tommrow -- In America this is more so as to the fact Americans have more choices, in "Mexico" they might be more happier, but they have less options, they live in a culture where there is very little choice involved in their relationships, as they ensure better fiscal survival for nations under such pretense. Your ignorance on the subject is amazing, and sickening, as it shows how much ignorance there is in the world as it pertains to sciological interactions.
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Segiris says:
This is Silly, and the comments are more so -- Simply put at that age the kids do not possess the intellectual development to fully understand what they are commiting to, they are simply being childern, they are getting attention for this little stun, and they are enjoying that, the kids are not physiologically capable of the chemical processes required for attraction, nor mentally educated or intelligent enough to process the full extent of such obligations, and by that fact i doubt they know what the word obligation even means, that is what it is, the parents are disgusting for forcing their childern into this, this only will spell ad disaster later down the road.
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cbsjb1954 says:
The expression "marry the girl next door" in this culture meant, marry someone you've known as a friend for a long time before sex came into the picture. Not bad advice. That said, 5 & 3 seems extreme.
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samXXkiley says:
coucou,
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c'est du n'importe quoi, qui sait de quoi, est fait demain.
au revoir
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cbs_tom says:
Wait a minute...Who's the child here??? oh yeah :)
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guest173 says:
those kids are going to be disappointed when they learn the reality of marriage. too bad their parents are giving them false ideas.
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kippertoo says:
While I'm not at all condoning what these families are planning, we should remember that, in our not-too-distant past, it was not unusual for girls to marry at what we would consider today to be an unacceptably young age.
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