Mary J. Blige on becoming herself
"I was running and hurting, and the only thing was coming out was pain," said singer Mary J. Blige. "Now I'm enjoying my life because I know who I am." (CBS)
"That was something that I was happy about, because it's all I had in identity," she said. "You know, I didn't know who I was. So if ghetto fabulous and keeping it real and all of that was what I was, I was cool with that ... until I learned that I can be more than that."
After years of drinking and cocaine use, Mary J. Blige shed the drama in her life, with the help of her husband and manager Kendu Isaacs.
"Even after I was married, I still couldn't believe it, that it was real," she said. "And he really did love broken down, little old me. 'Cause I just never saw myself like the woman that a man like him would want."
"Explain that? Because?"
"Because my past was just horrific. I felt ashamed about everything. Me dropping out of high school, me not, you know, just not being beautiful enough. I just didn't feel like I was smart enough or beautiful enough, you know, for years."
But after almost two decades in the spotlight, 40-year-old Mary J. Blige has finally made peace with her past, present, and future.
"You've been in this business for a while. Do you still enjoy it as much as you did when you were 17, 18, 19 years old?" asked Pitts.
"I enjoy it more now," she said. "Because now I can see it. And I know what it is. But when I was younger, I didn't know what the heck was going on. I was just singing for my life!
"I was running and hurting, and the only thing was coming out was pain. So now I'm enjoying my life because I know who I am."
"Who are you now?"
"I'm Mary Jane Blige. Jane Blige! You know, that's it. I know who I am. I am not perfect. I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. But I'm one of them."
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