CBS/AP/ February 26, 2013, 12:20 PM

Oscar Pistorius plans his own memorial service for Reeva Steenkamp

Photographers take photos of Olympic athlete Oscar Pistorius as he stands in the dock during his bail hearing at the magistrates court in Pretoria, South Africa, Friday, Feb. 22, 2013.

Photographers take photos of Olympic athlete Oscar Pistorius as he stands in the dock during his bail hearing at the magistrates court in Pretoria, South Africa, Friday, Feb. 22, 2013. / AP Photo/Themba Hadebe

JOHANNESBURG Oscar Pistorius is planning a personal memorial service for Reeva Steenkamp, the 29-year-old model he shot at his home on Valentine's Day.

The evening service would be at the Pretoria home of his uncle Arnold, where the Olympic athlete has been staying since he was released on bail awaiting trial on a premeditated murder charge.

Pistorius' reputation management firm said Pistorius had specifically requested the service "as he remains in deep mourning for the loss of his partner Reeva," whom he says he shot by accident assuming an intruder had entered his home on Feb. 14.

"Oscar has asked for a private service with people who share his loss, including his family members who knew and loved Reeva as one of their own," Vuma Reputation Management said in a statement.

Exactly a week ago, a memorial service was held for Steenkamp in the southern coast city of Port Elizabeth, where her body was cremated following a private service.

That same day, the bail hearing for Pistorius started in the nation's capital Pretoria.

It was unclear exactly what Pistorius' service would consist of or how many people would attend.

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Reeva Steenkamp's funeral

Prosecutors say the pair had an argument before Steenkamp was killed. Vuma said that Pistorius "continues to grieve" for her. Vuma spokeswoman Janice Hills would not give any further details about the ceremony, saying it is "a private matter for the family."

Chief Magistrate Desmond Nair set bail for Pistorius at 1 million rand ($113,000). The 26-year-old track star was also ordered to hand over his passports, turn in any guns he owns and keep away from his upscale home in a gated community in Pretoria, the scene of the crime.

He cannot leave the district of Pretoria without his probation officer's permission and is not allowed to consume drugs or alcohol.

Nair himself was in private mourning on Tuesday. He confirmed that he is related to a woman suspected of killing her two children and committing suicide on the weekend.

The revelation was the latest twist in the saga of Pistorius and prominent figures linked to the case against the double-amputee athlete.

The bodies of a woman and her two sons were found Sunday evening at their Johannesburg home by her ex-husband, police Warrant Officer Balan Muthan said. Authorities suspect the woman administered a substance that killed her children, and took her own life by ingesting it as well.

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Oscar Pistorius

"I can confirm the deceased is my first cousin," Nair told The Associated Press in a telephone interview.

The woman's brother, Vishal Maharaj, identified her as Anusha Maharaj. Police said Maharaj was her family name before she married. South African media identified her as Anusha Mooljee.

Muthan said police suspect "she took her own life by ingesting a substance that killed her," and that she "most probably" gave the same substance to her children. Autopsies were conducted Monday and toxicologists were analyzing the substance believed to have killed the three family members.

Suicide notes were found and a murder investigation was underway, Muthan said. He said copies of the notes were admitted as evidence in the probe and declined to comment on the contents.

Eyewitness News, a South African media outlet, said the boys who died were 12 and 17 years old and cited neighbor Claire Osment as saying she rushed outside after hearing screams coming from the townhouse where they lived.

"We asked what happened. The dad just said, `She has killed my boys.' He was just crying," Eyewitness News quoted her as saying. "He couldn't believe it, he couldn't believe that his sons are gone."

On Sunday, a lawyer for the Pistorius family said that Pistorius' brother Carl is facing a culpable homicide charge for a 2008 road death. Lawyer Kenny Oldwage would not confirm details of the case Carl Pistorius is facing, but in a statement said Carl had appeared in court the day before his brother's bail hearing last week, and is due in court again at the end of March.

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ralphing says:
dman, learn to research. He didn't "lose" his legs. He was born without legs.

I'm waiting for his explanation for what sound his girlfriend could possibly be making in a water closet that contains only a toilet, made that sounds like an intruder.

Was she grunting to pass a hard stool? Wiping noisily? Stealing his gold plated toilet seat?

I would had to have heard a window breaking, or the sound of a sledge hammer breaking down the wall, before I would think an intruder was in my bathroom. I would make sure my wife is hiding somewhere and calling the police before I would investigate the sounds. If she isn't in bed, my first thought would be that she couldn't sleep, so she was doing some renovation work. I'm not going to shoot at sounds without making sure who it was.
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davidjo12 says:
I'd be very nervous about using the bathroom at this affair.
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bobnjersey says:
["I can confirm the deceased is my first cousin," Nair told The Associated Press ... Pistorius' brother Carl is facing a culpable homicide charge for a 2008 road death ... Prosecutors say the pair had an argument before Steenkamp was killed ... ]
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so ... the judge's first cousin murdered her two young sons ... oscar is accused of murder of his girlfriend ... the lead investigator on the case is charged w/ attempted murder from an incident a year or so ago ... and oscar's brother is facing a homicide charge from a 2008 car accident?

can it get any stranger than this?
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ENDER7727 replies:
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No kidding, i was just about to say it. I hope its not like in america, where all these factors would probably lead to Oscar just walking free. Exaggerating a bit yes i am. But jeez, everyone in the case is already corrupt. or have commited crime
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bonzothemonkey says:
RBTatt




Talk about twisting the knife in this girl's parents' backs for a second time!! Brrr!

If this guy had the least sensitivity toward them--for appearances' sake--he would never have pulled such a transparently and blatantly self serving trick. His proper response, of course, should have been to release a statement to the press stating that as soon as the trial came to its' conclusion and he was found "innocent" (uh huh!), he'd be offering up such a memorial service.

The saddest part of this whole travesty is that he'll probably out on the street for years before the trial ever begins.
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KikiMeister says:
Definition of adding insult to injury. Any ounce of respect or reservation of innocent until proven guilty is gone. Since he's been free on bail, he's gone back to training and started up his PR machine at full speed. Scumbag.
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palebluegod replies:
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Agreed.
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dman6015 says:
"...the loss of his partner Reeva" Partner? A memorial service? For someone he only knew for three months? What a publicity stunt. Are we all supposed to feel sorry for him because he lost his legs? String him up by his thumbs over an ant hill.
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