"Ask people to list 10 things they like about themselves and they can't get past three," says New York based psychologist Heide Banks. "What they don't like? The list is endless." Maybe it's time to do a thought inventory and get rid of those old, worn out ideas that could be preventing you from achieving physical and emotional health.
How do you do that? To start, consider reining in what you expect out of life. "We live in a society where we are programmed to think we are losers if we are not millionaires or on the cover of a magazine," says Los Angeles-based clinical psychologist Dr. Angela Wilder. Unrealistic goals lead to disappointment. And even if you do set high goals and reach them, happiness isn't assured.